Hey folks, I found another virgin!
I know, hard to believe, but I guess they’re everywhere. This one comes from Colorado and is a hoot! She happily bares all the details of her de-flowering (both as a teenager and a writer) so I know you’ll want to read on. Her debut novel, Love Chosen, sounds like an exciting read, and she’s already scheduled for another release in a few months (so she must be doing something right, right?). So please help me welcome a fun lady and fellow Crested Butte Conference goer, Marne Kirk.
You can learn more about Marne and Love Chosen by visiting her website at www.marneannkirk.com.
Kaki, Thank you for having me here. You are such a sweet person… and you have no idea what you set yourself up for with a title like Virgins No More😉
You were just asking for it, you know…
So, let’s see if I can make Kaki blush without stepping over too many boundaries (yes, even I have some…)
Thank goodness my “blossoming” as a published author has not really mirrored my, er, becoming a woman.
I am so excited to share my debut novel, Love Chosen, available through Crescent Moon Press. It’s a fantasy romance, set in a medieval world of magic and dragons, discrimination and faith. And, of course, love.
Before I get into losing my writing virginity with “Love Chosen,” though, let me do a little set up on the other. I wasn’t your, um, perfect daughter, exactly… Kaki, if I had been your daughter, you probably would’ve given me up for adoption or locked me in a closet! (Looking back, I wouldn’t have blamed you).
Anyways, we cannot all come to our Lord as sparkling clean children, can we? Some of us come later in life…
So, back to my story…
I had heard so much about that first time. Everyone was doing “IT.” I had all of these built up hormones I didn’t know what to do with (and I’d been to church enough to know about the one man being struck down for doing that one thing to himself, I didn’t dare do that…). Oh, and did I mention, if you weren’t doing it, or if you were doing it yourself, you just weren’t cool?
Well, you know I HAD to do it… I set out looking for potential takers, found one (it wasn’t terribly difficult. I had a great product, lol), we dated for a few months (I was a chicken), and BAM Baby!
I’ll skip the details and go to the important part of my message…the conversation after:
Him: “Oh wow. Man, that was fantastic.”
Me: “Really? That’s it? We’re done?” (Yep, true story… I said that.)
Him: “You didn’t like it?”
Me: “Oh…um, it was… okay… I guess…”
Sad, I know. But true. I learned so much from this experience, though, and so much of it can be applied to getting published. I did NOT repeat this past in my writing life, proving humans CAN learn from their past.
- Everyone isn’t doing it (getting published RIGHT NOW). I wrote for ten years before I sent “Love Chosen” to Crescent Moon Press. Did I try other editors and agents in those ten years? Oh, heck yes. Except…not really. I didn’t try extremely hard, because deep down, I wasn’t quite ready. If you’re just starting out on your first story, enjoy the process of learning to write well. Find your writing voice, find what you LOVE, and enjoy who you’re becoming as a writer for awhile before jumping into the rest. When I was ready, when “Love Chosen” was where it needed to be, I found my editor and she loved my writing…
- If you decide to do it yourself (publish your own novel), you won’t be struck down… but you might have better luck with someone helping (critique partners and editors) … I’m just saying.
- Pick your partner (editor or agent) wisely and make sure you love them. Do your research. Find a publisher or agent you know you can respect, be with for the long haul of producing and selling your novel, take criticism from…. “Love” for your book. You’re going to be bringing up your baby together. That’s HUGE!
- Once you do sign that contract, you give your editor your baby (see? JUST like doin’ the dirty), and you don’t hear from anyone for a while. When you do hear from them again, it is to get your bunnies to work, work, work. The honeymoon is OVER and you have a lot to do to get your baby ready for the world. How well your baby does in the world is up to you and your partner (your editor). So, pick a partner wisely and make sure you can love them, because you’re going be tight (did I already say that?)…
The moral of the story (and I tell my kids this all the time): if love isn’t there, you’re going to be disappointed. It’s better to wait. Wait until you love your story. Wait until your critique partners love your story. Wait until some contests have loved your story. Then wait until you’ve researched and found the perfect fit in a publisher or agent.
I did, and I’m so glad.
I’m going to give away a copy of “Love Chosen,” here today. So, if you enjoy fantasy romance, or if you think you might enjoy it, leave a comment and show some love! I’ll let Miss Kaki, our wonderful hostess with the mostest, pick the winner and work out the details. I’ll mail an autographed copy of “Love Chosen” to the winner.
Thank you, again, for having me Kaki. I hope I didn’t make you too pink… Well, okay, I was going for a little blush…