WELCOME to a brand new feature on my blog: VIRGINS NO MORE!
This is the place where debut authors get to spout off about their literary de-flowering, and their sometimes scary, sometimes confusing, always exciting journey from timorous writer to happily published author.
Today I’m very excited to introduce our first virgin-no-more…Sarah M. Anderson, whose debut book, A Man of His Word, is being offered by Harlequin Desire in both print and ebook on December 6th!
Here’s a summary of Sarah’s first book–A Man of His Word: Attorney Rosebud Donnelly has a case to win. And she never lets anyone see her sweat. But her first meeting with Dan Armstrong doesn’t go according to script. No one warned her that the COO of the company she’s fighting would be so…manly. From his storm-colored eyes to his well-worn boots, Dan is an honest-to-goodness cowboy. But is he honest? Her yearning for the Texas tycoon goes against reason, against family loyalty, against everything she thought she believed in. And yet, in Dan’s strong arms, Rosebud feels she might be ready to risk everything for one more kiss….
Sounds intriguing, doesn’t it?
So there you have it. Take it away, Sarah!
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Name that Author!
Okay, I’m going to give you the answer up front: The name of your guest author today is Sarah M. Anderson.
But it almost wasn’t.
Sarah M. Anderson is my real name. It’s on my driver’s license. The bills are all addressed to Sarah M. Anderson, and I pay them with checks that have Sarah M. Anderson printed on them.
When I started writing four and a half years ago, I thought about taking on a pen name. I didn’t for a good-at-the-time reason: I already had a second name. I have a family nickname, which means I already have what borders on a split personality.
I remember the first date I went on with my future-husband. We’d been set up through work, which meant he kept calling me Sarah. I knew pretty quickly that he was at least a man I was going to have a relationship with, if not wind up marrying, so I had to tell him on that first date to call me by the friends n’ family name. It took him a few weeks to get the hang of some people calling me one name, and other people calling me a different name, but he did.
When it came time to pick a pseudonym, I didn’t think I could handle adding a third name to my brain. So I stuck with the official name.
I did choose to add the M, however. Sarah Anderson, it turns out, is a pretty common name. I was trying to register domain names, and www.sarahmanderson.com was the only one available without having to add ‘author’ or some other additional word to the address.
So I had a name. And for three and a half years, I had no regrets about using my own name. Mostly because no one else really noticed it.
But then something wonderful happened: I sold a book! (A Man of His Word, available from Harlequin Desire this month!) Suddenly, I’m everywhere. On twenty different guest blogs. Doing radio interviews. Book signings. Websites.
And now? I wish I’d gone with a third name.
Why? Well, I have a six-year-old son. I am also naturally a little paranoid. I’m one of those parents who do not believe in putting my child’s name, face, and embarrassing activities out there in the cyber world where anyone, anywhere can see it. I want to preserve as much of a normal childhood as I can for him—which includes not having strangers come up to him and start talking about the time his mom wrote that hilarious blog about when he wet the bed (which, for the record, he doesn’t do.) (I do write about less embarrassing stuff, like when he lost his first teeth, though). Until he’s old enough to provide informed consent to having his name and likeness broadcast around (which, at least by Facebook standards, is 13), I’m not going to put him out there.
Except that I’m using my real name. Which means that if someone is really serious about it, they could track down not just info about my son, but much more personal information than I’m comfortable with complete strangers knowing. Chalk it up to that natural paranoia I have.
So, for all you other virginal writers out there, take a few moments to think about your name. What’s more important to you—seeing your real name on the cover of book, or preserving your privacy?
And readers—this is what I want to know. Do you care whose name is on the cover? Do you like it better when an author is using her real name, or does it not matter as long as the story is good? I’ll give away a signed copy of A Man of His Word to one lucky commenter, and I’m also giving away a Locket of Love on January 1st! You can find details on my website.
(NOTE: This post is brought to you as part of the A Man of His Word Blog Tour. U.S. residents only. For a complete tour schedule and rules, visit www.sarahmanderson.com.)



Would love to read your book.
Thanks so much for hosting me, Kaki! I had so much fun being your first virgin! (Which is a statement that in no way could be taken out of context!)
Welcome, Joyce. It sounds like a good book, doesn’t it? Thanks for coming by and good luck!
Sarah, so far you’re the youngest virgin, so there’s that. I appreciate that you took time away from your busy blog tour to drop by. The reviews of A MAN OF HIS WORD are wonderful! Sounds like you’re on your way! Are you proud, or what?
Kaki, I can honestly say I’m overwhelmed. The response has been so positive, and people (such as yourself!) have been amazingly kind and supportive. I feel the love! (By the way, my best friend just picked up one of your books because your name sounded familiar from all the FB commenting–and now she’s hooked!!)
Wow! You have REALLY smart and discerning friends. Are you enjoying being almost nearly semi-famous? You wear it well.
I prefer authors to use their real names. Come on, give a stalker a break!
Good Point, Mary!
I have always secretly wanted to write a book. But I would not use my real name because I am a private person. So I don’t think it really matters to me whether the author uses his/her real name or not. The quality of writing is what I look for, and whether or not it keeps me turning pages. Best of luck on your book!
Well, let me first start by saying, “Thank you for explaining the two names thing”. Whew! No more wondering about that. And, Lord knows, I needed to be able to cross something of the “I’m clueless about that” list.
About whether or not I like real names on books: I do, because I’m a “like to know” person, but, also think, “Live and Let Live”. It’s not going to ruffle my feathers much if a bird is called by another name.
If I write a book, I will be forced to choose another name for publishing. Because, I shall have to include details about other people which would be too easy to figure out if I used my own name. And, due to the nature of the content, I just would never want to spend my hard earned writing dollars paying lawyers.
Well now you have to write it, Ivy. You’ve got my curiosity aroused.
Great blog! I don’t really mind what name is on a cover of a book, it’s the quality of the material inside. So many authors, as well as artists, use a pseudonym and I like to protect that privacy. Mostly. HA! By the way, I am honored to know both of Mrs. Anderson’s personalities personally.
Oh, and Kaki, I will be headed to the bookstore on Saturday to grab more of your fantastic books!!
Thanks, Amy. I hope you enjoy them.
Oh, Kaki, the books Ivy could write! Christina, I agree. I just wish I had had that thought a lot earlier!
Sarah, you’re so right about being careful with regards to letting your personal life and your writing life overlap. Trouble is … writing is so personal … so that kind of complicates things! Great blog, Sarah!
Hello there Sarah!
Congratulations on your debut novel, and having the dedication it took to get to see your name in print!
I have six-year-old twins so I identify with your story about losing the first tooth…such a fun age isn’t it? Mine are pros at the process now.
I’d love to be entered into the drawing to win your book
Christi Corbett
I’ve started writing, but haven’t chosen a pseudonym yet. My last name is unspellable and unpronounceable and I’m a good 30 years younger than anyone else anywhere named Phyllis. I just can’t decide on one!
One point about noms de plume is that most books that I see have the copyright inside the book in the author’s real name, so unless you take that extra step (like Jennifer Crusie, whose copyright is Argh Inc) and incorporate yourself, it’s just one tiny step to the real you. And even then, a real stalker can do public records research and voila, there you are. And really, Anderson is popular enough that you can claim to live in Timbuktoo and no one will find you
All that said, I post pictures of my kids on facebook, etc, but don’t post their names. I don’t know if it makes any difference if someone became obsessed, but I guess it’s a step removed.
And Kaki – great idea for blog posts!
Thanks, Phyllis. I’ve gotten to know several debut authors over the two years since I debuted, and I know how hard it can be to get the word out. All the “virgins” who will be posting here have given me a hand at one time or another–I’m just returning the favor. As for using the real name or not, I’m using mine (nickname, anyway) and I haven’t had a single run-in with paparazzi. I’m a little hurt. But I don’t use any of the grandkids pics without parental permission. So I understand the problems that could arise and the need to think it through carefully.
Wonderful post. Yes, there are a lot of pros and cons to choosing a pen name. It really doesn’t matter to me whether or not it’s their real name on the cover. As long as they go by the same name throughout their writing career so I can follow their work, they can use whatever name they want! lol
Ha ha. I’d follow a writer with the name of Big Bird as long as they kept me entertained!
Congrats Sarah on your first release!
Lisa Jo @ Once Upon A Chapter
I agree with you trying to keep your children’s lives private. It doesn’t matter to me what name you write under, as long as you keep writing! I’m on chapter three and I just got the book today…
Genevieve, you’re absolutely right–it gets very complicated very fast. Phyllis, there’s something to be said for easily pronounceable. You want people to be able to ask for your books, right? And Lisa, Thanks!!
Well, it’s my birthday weekend and I’m celebrating my BIG 50 . . . although nothing’s really changed. I’m still the same book nerd I’ve always been! My fingers are crossed that I luck out and win a copy of A Man of His Word. I loved Diane Sawyer’s interview with 12-year-old Robert Looks Twice of the Oglala Lakota Sioux and, as a middle school teacher, am wondering if I should be teaching on a reservation. Anyway, I love what I’ve read so far and am fascinated with Sarah Anderson’s interesting characters and premise. I will end up reading A Man of His Word whether I win a copy or not. BTW, this has been the most fun I’ve had on a blog in quite some time!
Happy Birthday, Melanie! Have a great one!
Hi, I just was reading your newsletter. I have never read your books but, they sound real good. I love western romances, i also like indian romances. Am looking foreward to reading one of yours. Lois
Congratulations, Sarah M Anderson! What an exciting time for you.
I admit I use a pseudonym for my writing, but it was really important to me to choose a family name. My real first name is Katrina, and my friends call me Kat, so that’s real enough. Latham is my grandma’s maiden name, and I grew up spending a lot of time with her mother, my Grandma Latham. So it doesn’t feel too strange. In fact, I’m so used to it now that I sometimes come close to telling people in “real” life that I’m Kat Latham.
I chose to do this because my full-time career (at least until the writing one kicks off and I get to be one of Kaki’s virgins) is in managing online content for charities. If potential employers google me, I don’t need them seeing I write blog posts about vaginas. I’m not embarrassed about those posts, and I always tell people eventually that I write romance, but I don’t need them to make the immediate connection before they’ve signed a contract with me.
Also, because of my job there’s always a chance I could be sent to a country where the government’s not so forgiving. And yes, I know of aid workers who were denied entrance into certain countries because the immigration guards googled them and found blog posts they’d written that were considered unacceptable. Scary stuff.
Good luck with your release. I’m not in the US, so don’t enter me in the contest, but I hope it sells like hotcakes!
You’re not completely off the hook, Kat. I’mm working up a “Turn the Tables” blog where I ask reviewers, agents and bloggers a few (unseemly?) questions. You’re on the list, so watch out!
Ooh, what fun! Just be careful, though. I plan to have you back on my blog one day soon.
Protect your private life and use a pseudonym. As long as people can find your books, no one’s going to care what the name on them is except for you. There are far too many horror stories out there of people being harassed and stalked for me to use my real name online.
S.V., you’re right–that’s my biggest concern. Part of me wants to believe that people are inherently good, but the other part of me knows that’s not how the world works.
Kat, if I had a do-over, I’d do something similar and use my grandmother’s name, so it felt familiar, but still had distance.
*waves* Hi, Lois!
Kaki is so funny! “I’m a little hurt!”
As a not-yet-successful writer, I like hearing successful writers like Kaki and Sarah who sound successful and also…happy.
Shelly, I hope you make a stop at Kaki’s blog when you become a semi-almost famous author, just like us!
I know I am late posting but just wanted to say you are a new author to me and I would love to read your book, it sounds really good and I do love my westerns.
CONGRATULATIONS to Melanie Saxton who has won a copy of Sarah Anderson’s book, A MAN OF HIS WORD. Please send your mailing address to kaki@kakiwarner.com and I’ll get it out right away. Thanks for participating, everybodyand have a great holiday!
Woot woot!!! I just emailed you my address and can’t wait to receive the copy. What a lucky reader I am!!
Thank you so much – Melanie